Have you tried repeatedly to talk to a loved one about how he or she is ruining their life with drugs and alcohol, and have they turned you down, laughed at you, or flat out refused to get help? If so, you should consider intervention services to help.
If you have been blown off by a loved one when you tried to talk to them about their need for addiction help, you are not alone. In fact, most loved ones are apprehensive about talking to someone about a substance abuse problem because they know they will be rejected. Fear of how the person will react is what keeps most families from sitting down and talking to their loved one. That’s why interventions are so popular, and when done right, they are effective for getting people the help for addiction they really need.
An intervention is much more successful when it is conducted or at least arranged by a professional. Unlike popular tv series where families put on a big show for the world, a real intervention should be carefully thought through, planned out, and more of a private meeting than a public confrontation. An interventionist will walk you through the entire process so you don’t have to worry or be surprised by anything along the way.
Planning with the Help of an Interventionist
The first thing an intervention specialist will do is sit down with you, the family, and discuss the issue. The professional will want to get some background on your addicted loved one – what they are using, how long they have been using, what family or other issues have contributed to the addiction. When the intervention specialist has a good grasp on the big picture, they will give you time to discuss what the addiction is doing to your family and how it is hurting the addict. You will be asked to think about the impact of the addiction and the real need your loved one has for treatment. Then, when it comes time to hold the intervention, you will have thought these things through and will be prepared to express them to your loved one.
An interventionist will meet with the family and be present for the intervention if they are located near the family or if travel arrangements have been made to bring them there. But these professionals will sometimes counsel the family and help plan the intervention long distance via phone and Internet connection. You as the family should consider these details when looking for intervention help.
Staging the Intervention
After all the planning has been done it is time to go ahead and confront your loved one. You will be nervous, and the day will be exhausting, but it is a necessary step to getting your loved one help. Try to set up a time when the addict is not high, or is at least able to hold a conversation with you. The professional you are working with will tell you to keep the mood positive; be honest, but don’t be demeaning. Your goal is to get your loved one to accept help, not make them defensive or argumentative. Having an outside party (intervention professional) present or on the phone will help move the conversation in the right direction.
After an Intervention
If your loved one agrees to get help, you can consider the intervention a success. But what the addict tells you today might not be how they feel tomorrow. For this reason, you should already have a treatment program picked out before going into the intervention, so that when they agree to it, you can whisk the addict away and get them enrolled in rehab.
After the intervention, your work is far from over. Loved ones can help during rehab in many ways. You can stay connected with treatment staff, provide background information, and participate in family therapy. Most importantly, you can learn about addiction yourself and provide encouragement and support for your loved one.
If your loved one is not willing to get help for an addiction, try using the help of intervention professionals. Sober Helpline can connect you with intervention services that you feel comfortable with and that will provide much-needed guidance and support. Contact us at (888) 907-8039 today to learn more.