If you have an addicted loved one, it is difficult to know where to start to get them help. You know they need help, but you don’t want to disrupt their life (or yours). You don’t know how that person is going to react when you approach them, and you might be a bit uncertain about the whole treatment thing yourself anyway. It helps to understand the disease of addiction and know what to expect. When you arm yourself with knowledge, you will be much more successful in your attempt to get your loved one the help they really need.
Find the Right Motivation
Perhaps you’ve witnessed the destruction addiction has caused in your loved one’s life. You have seen how much they’ve changed since they started using and how it has impacted your entire family. But do you know what addiction is really doing to your loved one? Do you know how completely their mind has been altered, how their finances and legal status are suffering, how dangerous addition is to their health? Study up a bit on addiction, and you will find even more motivation to get your loved one to accept help. The National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) has a wealth of information about the costs of addiction and its impact on the human body. After doing your research, you will agree that you can’t wait another day.
Find the Right Help
Next, consult an expert. Talk to your doctor, or speak to a treatment professional who can give you real options for your loved one’s recovery. Together, you can look at different types of rehab and find the one that will be right for your family. Then, when it comes time to talk to your loved one, you will have plans in place and can move them into treatment quickly.
A treatment professional can also help you prepare to talk to your loved one, and help you stage an intervention, if necessary. Having the support of someone who does this for a living and can use all their resources and connections to help will put your mind at ease about the treatment process.
Find the Right Time to have the Conversation
Without putting it off any longer than necessary, look for the right opportunity to talk to your loved one. Have it be a time when they are sober, or relatively sober, a time when they can focus on your words and fully understand what you are asking of them. Be upfront and honest, don’t beat around the bush, and certainly don’t back down. You are convinced they have a drug or alcohol addiction problem and the only way this is really going to be fixed is through addiction rehab.
The first thing you want your loved one to do is be assessed by a professional. If they agree to go to the rehab facility, you can count on treatment staff to do their job and enroll your loved one when they get there. Starting with an assessment will ensure your loved one gets the right kind of care for their needs.
Find Help for Yourself
In the event that your loved one refuses treatment, denies they have a problem, or claims they can stop on their own anytime they want, it is time for you to step back and focus on yourself for a while. Don’t give in to their demands, and don’t enable them by giving them money or making excuses for them. Find a support group through Al-Anon, or see your own therapist who can help you get through this time in your life. If you listen and learn from those who have been through this already, you will learn that you can’t make your loved one change. You can’t make them get help, but you can change yourself and find happiness for yourself regardless of the other person. And in making yourself a better person, you will make it more difficult for the addict to remain in their addiction, and might just provide the motivation they need to get help. If not, at least you will be working on improving your own life and happiness.
The important thing is to get the help you and your loved one really need, from trained professionals. Sober Helpline will work with you to find a treatment center that is right for your loved one, and can help you get that person enrolled today. Contact our helpline at (888) 907-8039 to learn more today.